right hand; if on the left, with the left hand, and make a slight inclination of the head. There is sometimes a false idea of personal independence among boys, which prevents their making a polite bow, or giving a civil reply; but it is a very vulgar independence that disregards the laws of good

manners.

Smoking in company.-In some parts of the country, gentlemen are never seen smoking on the street, and it would be well if the rule were universal; but there is no exception to the rule that prohibits gentlemen, everywhere, from smoking when in company with ladies on the street. Even if the lady assures him that smoking is not offensive, he has no right to presume on her forbearance in that manner, and give the impression to those who pass that they are both devoid of the culture exhibited by well-bred people.

The graceful gait.-The manner of walking is a matter of more importance than some might suppose, without reflection; and yet the impressions that we derive from seeing a stranger walk are not without their significance. A gentleman never puts on a pompous manner, and a lady never struts. The style of walking should be easy and graceful. The toes should be turned out slightly, the step should be firm, decided, and moderately long. A slouching, irregular, unsteady gait is very ungraceful, while the mincing, wriggling, affected style adopted by some women is as uncomfortable to themselves as it appears ridiculous and unnatural to those who see it. Dr. Dio Lewis, in his charming book, "Our Girls," gives a rule for elegant carriage that is worth practicing. He says: "Whoever carries the chin close to the neck is all right from top to toe, and will walk well.” There seems to be philosophy in the suggestion, for if the

Is it true independence to disregard the rules of politeness? What is the rule in reference to smoking? Is it important to learn to walk gracefully? Why? What is meant by strutting? How shall the toes be directed? Describe the step. What shall be said of wriggling? Give Dr. Lewis's rule for graceful walking. Why is this rule a good one?

chin lies close to the neck, the head will be erect, the shoulders back, and the chest full. The recipe is worth a trial.

In walking, the breath should be inhaled through the nose, and not by the mouth, which should be kept shut. The "uneducated mouth" is one of the indications of bad breeding.

CHAPTER XXXVIII.

BEHAVIOR IN CHURCH.

It is presumed that young people know and are willing to respect the usages of the church which it is their custom to attend; but as it may not be so clear what politeness requires of those who visit churches of other denominations, a few words may not be inappropriate upon the subject. As has already been indicated in Chapter XXVI, the right of worship is one of the inalienable rights of every man, and it is one of the glories of our republican government that it assures to every man the full enjoyment of this right in the erection of houses of worship, and in the exercise of any forms of religious service.

Differences in worship.-There is a marked difference in the forms of worship in the synagogue, the cathedral, the church, and the meeting-house, and if the Jews, the Catholics, the Episcopalians, or the Friends will open their doors, that we may witness their ceremonies, the least that we can do in accepting their invitation is to behave in a becoming

How shall the breath be inhaled in walking? What is an uneducated mouth? What is the subject of Chapter XXXVIII? Why are suggestions made on this subject? What is our duty if we visit the religious services of those who differ from us in faith? Why?

manner.

No more serious offense can be committed than to show disrespect to any person's religious faith, especially in the house dedicated to the worship of God. As our attendance there is an entirely voluntary matter, we shall be inexcusable if we injure the feelings of any by an apparent disregard of the sanctities of the place.

Punctuality.-Mrs. Chapone was asked why she always went so early to church. "Because," said she, "it is a part of my religion not to disturb the religion of others." Appreciating this idea, we should be punctual to the hour appointed for the services to commence, or, if by accident, we arrive too late, we should wait at the door during the opening exercise, and enter when there is a change in the service.

A respectful entrance. The entrance to the church should be in as noiseless a manner as possible, and with as little clattering of shoes or rustling of dresses as can be made. Such exhibitions as are sometimes given of new fashions by those who enter late provoke criticisms, not only unsuitable to the time and place, but also very uncomplimentary to the exhibitors. Refined people never display such extreme vulgarity. If we are not acquainted with the usages of the place, an officer or person appointed for such duty will conduct us to a suitable seat. If invited to follow him, we should do so, taking the place he assigns, and thanking him quietly, at least by a smile, for his courtesy.

Cleanliness in church.-It is the custom of the Turks, when they enter a mosque, which is a Mahomedan place of worship, to take off their shoes, that the sacred place may not be defiled. There are those in this land who, when they enter even their own church, not only do not remove their

Why is it insulting to behave badly in church? What was the remark of Mrs. Chapone? If late at church, how shall we act? How shall we enter? When the usher takes us in charge, what shall we do? How do the Turks enter their mosques? How should Christians enter their houses of worship?

shoes, but fail also to clean off the mud that adheres to them. A decent respect for the usages of good society might prompt such people to practice the external rules of politeness, even if no higher motive should influence them. The same lack of culture is manifest in those who enjoy the luxury (?) of tobacco chewing during the church service, and use both pew and aisle as a great spittoon, to the intense disgust of those who love cleanliness; to the annoyance of such as possess a refined taste, and to the mortification of those who venerate the place dedicated to the service of God.

Conduct in church.-If the services are such that we may properly join them, it is our duty to do so. It is rude to sit when the congregation stands, unless we have some conscientious scruples against standing. If there be anything strange or peculiar in the ceremonies, it is the grossest rudeness to express any marks of disapprobation or contempt by talking or laughing. Such misconduct is inexcusable. Nor is it proper to read a paper or book during the service, as it appears disrespectful to the minister, the choir, and the congregation, by an implied indifference to the sermon and the services.

Do not appear to be inattentive, nor look at your watch, nor yawn, nor sleep, nor be in an unbecoming haste to leave when the exercises are over. Unless sickness or some imperative call compel you to leave the house, you should remain until the close of the service. When the congregation is passing from the house, do not crowd and jostle, as if you were in a hurry to leave. Be calm, decorous, and dignified. If a young gentleman, and you have a lady in charge, do not stand outside the door till she arrives, but accompany her inside to the door. If a lady, you should refuse to be escorted by one who waits outside for your appearance.

Is it respectful and polite to use tobacco in church? When shall we join the services? Shall we indicate an approval or disapproval of the services? Why? What is it improper to do in church? Is it polite to leave the house during the services? How shall a young gentleman act who escorts a lady? Is it polite to wait outside? How should a lady act toward one who will not escort her in the house?

CHAPTER XXXIX.

BEHAVIOR IN THE CONCERT OR LECTURE ROOM.

When we buy a ticket to a concert or lecture, we purchase a right to all the enjoyment the entertainment affords, subject, however, to the restriction that we do not interfere with the rights of others. We may secure a reserved seat, but have no right to go in at such a time or in such a manner as to disturb others after the exercises have commenced. If the seats have not been reserved, those who come first have the choice.

The tardy.—It is not uncommon to see men and women enter the hall after the exercises have begun, who seem utterly ignorant of the proprieties of the place, or indifferent to the rights of all present. Oftentimes they take no care to come in gently, and manifest no desire, apparently, to avoid the disturbance their entrance occasions. It is such women that push up far to the front, and stand at some gentleman's side, who has come early and secured a seat, in the expectation that he will surrender his place. Gentlemen are thus sometimes deprived of their rights by the coarse manners of an unfeeling selfish woman, who has not even the politeness to acknowledge the courtesy.

A lady should feel a great reluctance in depriving an acquaintance, and much more a stranger, of a seat to which she has no claim. Any gentleman who surrenders his seat under such circumstances does it out of pure gallantry, and

What is the subject of Chapter XXXIX? What rights does the purchase of a ticket give us? Have others a right to disturb us? Have we any rights that others have not? Have we a right to come late? How do rude people act? Has a woman a right to a choice seat when she comes late? If a gentleman gives her his seat,

how should she act?